Motherhood Isn’t Measured in Clean Houses or Perfect Meals
Close your eyes for a minute and think about how you pictured yourself as a mother to be, before you actually became a mother.
Now let's take a moment to tell that version "Bless your Heart" and give her a smile.
When you imagined becoming a mother, you probably didn’t picture the endless pressure that would come with it: Don't mess up your kids.
Make sure everything looks put together.
Look as if you didn't even have kids.
All meals should be healthy and balanced.
Don't lose your sh*t.
And somehow, also stay perfectly composed—inside and out.
In a world that often measures motherhood by appearances and checklists, it's no wonder so many women end up feeling like they’re failing before the day even begins.
But here’s the truth: Motherhood isn’t measured by clean houses or perfect meals. It’s measured in love, connection, and the grace you extend—to your children, and to yourself.
The Invisible Pressure on Moms
From the moment you enter motherhood, there’s this subtle (and sometimes not-so-subtle) messaging that your worth is tied to how much you can do, how well you can present it, and how effortless you can make it look.
Social media glorifies:
Perfectly styled nurseries
Kids dressed in matching outfits
Organic, homemade meals that look like they belong in a magazine spread
Moms who are "back in their jeans" weeks after giving birth
And if you're not doing all of it (and smiling through it), you start to wonder, "What's wrong with me? Why can't I do this? So-and-so does it all with ease... I should be able to do this and not feel like I am losing my ever loving mind every other day."
The mental load, the mom guilt, the pressure, and your perfectionism all pile up making you feel heavy.
So you turn back to what you can control: Food.
The truth? Nothing is wrong with you.
You’re living under impossible standards that have nothing to do with what truly makes a good mother—or a fulfilled, empowered woman.
How This Affects Your Relationship with Yourself
When the expectations pile up, something else often happens: You disconnect from yourself.
You begin to:
Criticize your body for how it looks instead of honoring what it’s carried you through.
Tie your value to how much you accomplish instead of who you are.
Feel guilt for resting, eating, or taking up space—because there’s always something else you “should” be doing.
The more you chase perfection, the further you drift from self-trust, self-compassion, and self-connection—the very things that allow you to show up fully for yourself and for your family.
Reclaiming a New Definition of Motherhood
Imagine if your worth wasn’t determined by the state of your kitchen, the number on the scale, or how many veggies your child ate today. (Because let's be honest, having your toddler lick a veggie counts right?)Imagine if you measured your motherhood by:
How safe your kids feel with you.
How freely you allow yourself (and them) to be imperfect.
How you model self-love, self-care, and resilience—not just self-sacrifice.
When you choose to release the unrealistic standards and prioritize emotional connection (with yourself and your loved ones), you’re not just healing yourself—you’re creating a legacy of self-acceptance for future generations.
A Reminder for the Moms Reading This:
Your kids will remember how you made them feel, not whether dinner was Pinterest-worthy.
Your body is not a “before” or “after” project—it’s your home.
You are not behind because your life doesn’t look picture-perfect.
Resting, eating, asking for help, and setting boundaries are not weaknesses—they are powerful acts of love and strength.
We teach our kids how to take care of themselves by taking care of ourselves. If your kid came to you and said they were struggling, you'd probably respond with compassion and determination to do everything you can to get them support.
You deserve this same compassion and determination. You wouldn't think twice about investing in something that would significantly help your child. Why not do this for yourself?
Maybe it's time to stop putting your healing on the back burner.
You deserve to feel at home in your body and your life—right now, not “once things calm down” or “after you get it together.”
Ready to Reconnect with Yourself?
If you’ve been feeling the weight of motherhood perfectionism, body guilt, or burnout, know this: You don’t have to navigate it alone.
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You are worthy of living a life that feels joyful, authentic, and enough—because you already are💜
